September 19th, 2011

This morning, we told the boys it was our wedding anniversary. Tonight, I overheard the Littlest Who asking his oldest brother, “So which anniversary is this for you?”

“It’s not my anniversary,” big brother replied, with all the condescension a 12-year-old can muster. “It’s mom and dad’s.

“I mean, which anniversary of you with Mom and Dad.”

The 12-year-old told him he had it all wrong, but I think he has it just right.  The anniversary isn’t just about the two of us on a single day, fourteen years ago, but about all that has come into our lives since.

You could say it’s our family’s birthday.

And you could feel free to bring cake.

8 Responses to “Nested.”

  1. Tamara says:

    Loved this Kyran. We just had an Anniversary as well, we never really ‘celebrate’ it and consequently rarely know which anniversary we are supposed to be celebrating.( we have failled the ‘Hallmark course’ miserably) We instead try to appreciate the ‘everyday’.
    I love the idea of the family birthday, and any excuse for cake in our house is good!!

  2. Angella says:

    Happy Anniversary! To all of you. I’ll buy you cake (or a glass of champagne) in Toronto. 🙂

  3. Pat Hammond says:

    I used to think of anniversaries as , “thank heavens we made it this far!”, but they really should be, “think of all we’ve come through together so far”. And I do love the idea of appreciating the “everyday”.

  4. Bev says:

    On our 25th Anniversary this past January I wrote an essay to my kids that contained essentially the same message…that the day is an anniversary for all of us. It’s a day to celebrate the beginning of all that came after, celebrate who we each have grown into today, and celebrate the great anticipation with which we look forward to our future.

  5. Kim says:

    Happy Anniversary for you! Congrats on the milestone.

  6. The Mommy says:

    We will be celebrating our 10th anniversary in October and we are renewing our vows. For two reasons: The obvious – because I’m a sap and 2) Every time we go to a wedding the kids ask why they weren’t at ours. It’s becoming too difficult to explain so they’re coming to our wedding. End of problem. And I’m totally trying to convince my husband we need wedding cake for a vow renewal. It’s gotta be tradition or something, right?

  7. Jana says:

    My husband and I just celebrated our 24th anniversary. We married when I was 20 and he had just turned 22. Children didn’t come along for almost 10 years later. I like to look back at our lives together like the movie Philadelphia Story with Katharine Hepburn and Cary Grant: “They grew up together.”

  8. Kara says:

    I’m guessing it’s the 12-year-old’s 12th anniversary with you. Happy Family Birthday!

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